“If you’re not a Christian, I do
want to give you one tip about dating. Okay, here’s what it is: Non-Christians,
don’t date a Christian unless you plan to become one. And let me tell you why.
You don’t know they’re doing this to you and they’re going to hate me for telling
you this, but this whole—when a Christian dates a non-Christian, it is all
about bait-and-switch. You need to understand that. I can prove it. They’ve got
you at church today. See, they’re
already working this, ‘Heeey, you want to go to church?’ Okay, you know, here’s
the deal. They do not accept you the way
you are. They want you to become a Christian.
They want you to become a Christian, ‘cause their momma’s nervous, their
daddy’s nervous, they know they shouldn’t be dating a non-Christian and they
want you to become a Christian. In fact,
they’re really hating me right now, but you know what, I’m not the first person
that has said this and as a non-Christian, I got to tell you, you’d be better
off finding an honest Pagan, okay? They
will accept you just the way you are.
Christians will not. And, I’m
telling you, if you marry ‘em—if you marry a Christian they are going to want
to set up shop…so, if you’re not a Christian I would be very, very careful
about dating a Christian, because they have an agenda.” — Andy Stanley,
Senior Pastor at Northpoint Community Church
1. Looks like
the dating pool just got a little bit a lot smaller for me. Non-Christians need not apply when I start
dating again in 317 days.
2. I love
Andy Stanley. He’s hilarious. Listen to his sermon. Even if you’re not a Christian, there’s a lot
of useful wisdom jam-packed in there. The
above excerpt is about 36 minutes into his series: The
New Rules for Love, Sex and Dating; Part 4: If I Were You. Click on #4.
3. I want to
start dating again. Now. The urge is creeping. And I’m attracted to Christians and
non-Christians alike. Not happening with
either, Jamie. So suck it up, and keep
pushing on. No distractions or cheap
imitations. I’ve made it 26 years
without settling, I refuse to let it happen now, and I refuse to let it happen
317+ days from now.
4. Agenda. Yup.
He called it. Christians have
agendas. Though I would never have
admitted to it >:) Friendships and
relationships alike, we’re pulling for Christ all the way.
5. I honestly
don’t think, as a woman and a new
Christian, that I could date a non-Christian.
For women, with men having to meet the standard of being the spiritual
leaders in the family, there is no way I’d be able to fill both pairs of shoes.
6. “What’d
you get your boyfriend for Christmas?” “Oh,
if I had a boyfriend, you mean…” “Oh,” which is then followed with pity,
apologies, and promises for ‘maybe soon’.
Nobody died, dear, sweet customers at the bank.
There’s no funeral. I’m still alive,
people! If my relationship status wasn’t
on the mind of every sweet grandma and grandpa who wants to see me married,
maybe I wouldn’t mind so much that I’m not.
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